Campo Grief Counselling
Practical help for people dealing with loss of a parent and loss of a brother or sister, plus a weekly drop-in.
Mon to Fri, 9 to 5
For anyone grieving a mother or father, at any age. Talk with people in Brazil who know what it is like, find help near you, and join the worldwide circle too. Free, always.
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Practical help for people dealing with loss of a parent and loss of a brother or sister, plus a weekly drop-in.
Mon to Fri, 9 to 5
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Grief recovery support groups meeting weekly.
โAbout three years ago, that was me. Mother's Day ads. That was my life. This morning I sang in the car. It's slow, but it does come back.โ
โIf you're just starting this, the first thing I'd say is: the paperwork is not the grief, but it will keep dragging you back to it anyway. That's normal. Put the letters in one folder and deal with them on one set day a week. Tell your brother or sister what you need, even if it's just to sit in the same room. And when the ads come on, turn the radio off if you have to. It doesn't mean you're not coping. It means you loved her.โ
โWhen my dad died, I thought I would never feel normal again. And I was right, but also wrong. You don't feel normal, you feel different. The first months are the hardest. Accept help. My friend Mary brought me food, and I didn't want to eat it, but I did. Talk about your parent. Say their name. It helps. Don't worry if you cry in the supermarket. It happens. And if you have siblings, try to remember you are all hurting, even if you show it differently. Be patient with each other.โ
โFor anyone just starting this: it is going to hurt like hell for a while. You might feel guilty about the things you didn't say or do. That is normal. But the guilt is not the whole story. The love is. Keep talking to them if you want. Keep their number in your phone. And find one person who will listen without trying to fix it. That helps more than the advice.โ