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โIf you're just starting this, the first thing I'd say is: the paperwork is not the grief, but it will keep dragging you back to it anyway. That's normal. Put the letters in one folder and deal with them on one set day a week. Tell your brother or sister what you need, even if it's just to sit in the same room. And when the ads come on, turn the radio off if you have to. It doesn't mean you're not coping. It means you loved her.โ
โIf you're at the start of this, I won't pretend it's easy and the first few months were the worst of my life. But I'm writing this from the other side, and some days now I forget to be sad. I had to stop googling, it made everything worse so go slowly.โ
โAbout three years ago, that was me. Mother's Day ads. That was my life. This morning I sang in the car. It's slow, but it does come back.โ
โWhen my dad died, I thought I would never feel normal again. And I was right, but also wrong. You don't feel normal, you feel different. The first months are the hardest. Accept help. My friend Mary brought me food, and I didn't want to eat it, but I did. Talk about your parent. Say their name. It helps. Don't worry if you cry in the supermarket. It happens. And if you have siblings, try to remember you are all hurting, even if you show it differently. Be patient with each other.โ