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For anyone grieving a mother or father, at any age. Talk with people in South Korea who know what it is like, find help near you, and join the worldwide circle too. Free, always.
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Practical help for people dealing with losing a pet and anticipatory grief, plus a weekly drop-in.
Weekdays and Saturday mornings
Free emotional support from trained listeners, online and anonymous, in many languages.
24/7
Grief recovery support groups meeting weekly.
โHello from the other side of it. About three years ago, that was me. Back then it was the will and my brother. I can talk about it now without falling apart. It's slow, but it does come back.โ
โWhen my dad died, I thought I would never feel normal again. And I was right, but also wrong. You don't feel normal, you feel different. The first months are the hardest. Accept help. My friend Mary brought me food, and I didn't want to eat it, but I did. Talk about your parent. Say their name. It helps. Don't worry if you cry in the supermarket. It happens. And if you have siblings, try to remember you are all hurting, even if you show it differently. Be patient with each other.โ
โFor anyone just starting this: it is going to hurt like hell for a while. You might feel guilty about the things you didn't say or do. That is normal. But the guilt is not the whole story. The love is. Keep talking to them if you want. Keep their number in your phone. And find one person who will listen without trying to fix it. That helps more than the advice.โ
โFor whoever is where I was: I've been there. For me it was a few years back. Mine was mum died in March after a short illness. I went on holiday in the summer and actually relaxed. It's slow, but it does come back. You've got this, even if it doesn't feel like it.โ