Caring for an aging parent support in China 🇨🇳

“A note for the next person. I was where you are eighteen months ago. I remember driving two hours every weekend like it was yesterday. Today I went for a walk and didn't cry once. Praying for you.”

“To someone just starting out caring for an aging parent: I know it feels like your life isn't your own anymore. I've been there. The appointments, the forms, the constant worry. It's okay to be tired. It's okay to ask for help, even if some people let you down. Celebrate the small wins, like a good day or a smile. Look after yourself too, even if it's just ten minutes with a cup of tea. You're doing a good job, even when it doesn't feel like it. And other people are going through the same thing, even if it feels like they're not.”

“I was right where you are two years ago. Dad fell twice this month. That was my life. Yesterday I booked a holiday. It doesn't stay this heavy.”

“I know you're in the thick of it and it feels like you're the only one holding everything up. I've been there, and I still am some days. What I've learned is that you can't do it all, and that's not a failure. Tell someone, even if it's just a friend or a colleague. Ask for the care assessment and push for what your parent needs. And find a way to get some sleep, even if it means letting something else slide. You're not on your own, even when it feels like it. Take it from me, a guy who's still figuring it out.”