It Gets Better Project
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Stories and a global directory of LGBTQ+ support organisations.
โComing out is different for everyone. For me, my dad stopped talking. That hurt more than I expected. But some people surprised me. My brother let me in. A friend from class checked on me. The waiting list for the clinic is long, but I'm still here. If you're just starting, take it slow. You don't have to tell everyone at once. And if someone walks away, it says more about them than you. Keep the people who stay.โ
โI was in the same place eighteen months ago. A waiting list for the gender clinic, every single day. I've started painting again. You get yourself back in pieces. You're not on your own.โ
โI was 57 when I started telling people. You might be younger, you might be older. It doesn't matter. The first person is the hardest. For me it was my brother. He didn't say much, then called two days later to check I was okay. That was enough. You don't have to tell everyone at once. One person is a start. And if it goes badly, that is not the end of your story. You are still here, still yourself. Keep going.โ
โReading this late at night? I've been there. Two years ago, that was me. Starting HRT, every single day. Now I sleep most nights. It changes. It really does. Be gentle with yourself.โ