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โI don't have advice. I just know the first week is strange and quiet and people say the wrong thing. For me it helped to leave her lead where it was for a while. Then one day I took it down and put it in a drawer. That was all I could do that day. If you're still stepping around the basket, that's alright. You don't have to move it yet. I still miss her. That hasn't changed but it's softer now.โ
โI know it feels like too much right now, and people might say the wrong things like it was just a cat. They don't know how much space that animal took up in your life. For me, the empty basket was the worst part, and the walks we did without him. What helped was letting myself cry whenever it came, not on a schedule. And finding one person who got it, even online. You are not weird for how much this hurts. It's real, and it will slowly get softer, not smaller. Just keep going, and if you can, keep the routine if it feels okay.โ
โPlease be gentle with yourself and I wasn't, and it made everything harder and I talk to them out loud sometimes and it helps more than it should. And talk to someone, even if it's just in here.โ
โHi, you. I was in the same place in 2022. The empty basket. That was my life. These days I mostly feel like me. You get yourself back in pieces. Praying for you.โ