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Run by people who have been through anticipatory grief and loss of a child themselves.
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โI don't have advice. I just know the first week is strange and quiet and people say the wrong thing. For me it helped to leave her lead where it was for a while. Then one day I took it down and put it in a drawer. That was all I could do that day. If you're still stepping around the basket, that's alright. You don't have to move it yet. I still miss her. That hasn't changed but it's softer now.โ
โIf you're at the start of this, I won't pretend it's easy. The firt few months were the worst of my life. But I'm writing this from the other side, and some days now I forget to be sad. I wrote them a letter and kept it in my bag for months. Go slowly.โ
โI know it feels like too much right now, and people might say the wrong things like it was just a cat. They don't know how much space that animal took up in your life. For me, the empty basket was the worst part, and the walks we did without him. What helped was letting myself cry whenever it came, not on a schedule. And finding one person who got it, even online. You are not weird for how much this hurts. It's real, and it will slowly get softer, not smaller. Just keep going, and if you can, keep the routine if it feels okay.โ
โFor whoever is where I was: About three years ago, that was me. I remember the empty basket like it was yesterday. Now I sleep most nights. It changes. It really does.โ