Northside Debt Advice, Gweru
Run by people who have been through adoption and foster care and family estrangement themselves.
Tue to Sat, 10 to 6
For parents worried about a teenager. Talk with people in Zimbabwe who know what it is like, find help near you, and join the worldwide circle too. Free, always.
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Run by people who have been through adoption and foster care and family estrangement themselves.
Tue to Sat, 10 to 6
Run by people who have been through caring for an aging parent and caregiver burnout themselves.
Mon to Fri, 9 to 5
โIf you're just starting with a teen who won't leave their room, I won't pretend I have the answers. For me, the waiting list felt endless and the exclusion letters kept coming. What helped was finding one other parent who got it. I still drive nights and Nathan still games, but we had a chat last week about nothing much. That was something.โ
โWhen your teen is struggling, you will feel like you are failing. You are not. The lying and the vaping and the closed door, it is not about you. Keep the small routines. For me it was Sunday hiking. One hour. It doesn't fix anything but it keeps you standing. Ask for help even if you are the one who usually gives it. And when they come out of their room for dinner, just say the food is good. Don't make it a big thing. They will come back when they are ready. In the meantime, you have to keep yourself well.โ
โIf you're at the start of this, I won't pretend it's easy. The first few months were the worst of my life. But I'm writing this from the other side, and some days now I forget to be sad. I had to ask for help and it nearly killed me, but it was the right thing. Go slowly.โ
โDear stranger, this time last year I was exactly where you are. It was vaping and lying and I couldn't see past it. These days I mostly feel like me. It comes back so slowly you don't notice until one day you do. From someone who gets it.โ