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โIf you're scared right now, I get it. I was right where you are about three years ago. I remember planning a funeral while he watches telly like it was yesterday. Yesterday I booked a holiday. It doesn't stay this heavy. You've got this, even if it doesn't feel like it.โ
โTo whoever needs this: I was in the same place nearly four years ago. I remember when guilt for wishing it was over, like it was yesterday. Last month I had people round for dinner. The bad days get further apart. One day at a time.โ
โIf you're just starting this, I want to say it's a strange kind of loss. You're grieving someone who is still here. That's allowed. Some days you'll be fine and then a song or a smell will hit you and you'll be back in the car crying. It's not linear. And if you have a sibling who doesn't help, try not to let it eat you up. You can't make them care. Just focus on the time you have. You won't regret being there.โ
โIf you're just starting this, the one thing I'd say is: don't wait for the perfect moment to say what you need to say. My dad was still cracking jokes about the football two days before he went. I nearly didn't tell him I loved him because I thought there'd be another visit. There wasn't. And don't feel bad about planning the funeral early. It doesn't mean you've given up. It just means you're trying to make things easier for everyone later. Also, take the unpaid leave if you can. Work will still be there.โ