The Lantern Trust, Sha
Practical help for people dealing with anticipatory grief and losing someone to suicide, plus a weekly drop-in.
Weekdays and Saturday mornings
For grieving someone who is still here. Talk with people in Hong Kong SAR China who know what it is like, find help near you, and join the worldwide circle too. Free, always.
Next gathering in the Hong Kong SAR China circle: Weekly check-in ยท
Practical help for people dealing with anticipatory grief and losing someone to suicide, plus a weekly drop-in.
Weekdays and Saturday mornings
A small team supporting losing a pet and loss of a spouse or partner. Free first conversation, then low-cost sessions.
Weekdays and Saturday mornings
Free emotional support from trained listeners, online and anonymous, in many languages.
24/7
Grief recovery support groups meeting weekly.
โI remember when Dad first got sick, I felt so alone. If you are starting this, know that the guilt you feel is normal. It does not make you a bad person. Find one person who gets it, even if it is someone online. And take photos of the good moments, even if they are rare. You will need them later. I am not going to say it is easy, but you can do it. I am here if you want to talk.โ
โIf you're just starting this, I want to say it's a strange kind of loss. You're grieving someone who is still here. That's allowed. Some days you'll be fine and then a song or a smell will hit you and you'll be back in the car crying. It's not linear. And if you have a sibling who doesn't help, try not to let it eat you up. You can't make them care. Just focus on the time you have. You won't regret being there.โ
โTo whoever needs this: I was in the same place nearly four years ago. I remember when guilt for wishing it was over, like it was yesterday. Last month I had people round for dinner. The bad days get further apart. One day at a time.โ
โA note for the next person. I was in the same place this time last year. Dad is in palliative care. That was every day. I'm volunteering here now. It comes back so slowly you don't notice until one day you do. One day at a time.โ