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Soft Light Sleep Kits, Nelson
A small team supporting loss of a spouse or partner and losing a pet. Free first conversation, then low-cost sessions.
Tue to Sat, 10 to 6
Anticipatory grief support in New Zealand
For grieving someone who is still here. Talk with people in New Zealand who know what it is like, find help near you, and join the worldwide circle too. Free, always.
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From people who came through it
“I remember when Dad first got sick, I felt so alone. If you are starting this, know that the guilt you feel is normal. It does not make you a bad person. Find one person who gets it, even if it is someone online. And take photos of the good moments, even if they are rare. You will need them later. I am not going to say it is easy, but you can do it. I am here if you want to talk.”
Camila C · been through anticipatory grief“To whoever needs this: I was in the same place nearly four years ago. I remember when guilt for wishing it was over, like it was yesterday. Last month I had people round for dinner. The bad days get further apart. One day at a time.”
Sulo T · been through anticipatory grief“When my dad went into palliative care, I thought I had to be strong. I didn't. The waiting is the worst part. You don't have to fill every silence. Just be there. If you need to cry, cry in the car. If you need to laugh at something stupid on TV, laugh. It's not betrayal. Your person is still here. That's what matters. Don't plan too far ahead. Just get through today, then tomorrow. That sounds like something off a fridge magnet but it's the only thing that works. And find someone to talk to, even if it's just online. You're not the only one going through this.”
marisol.paper · been through anticipatory grief“If you're just starting this, I want to say it's a strange kind of loss. You're grieving someone who is still here. That's allowed. Some days you'll be fine and then a song or a smell will hit you and you'll be back in the car crying. It's not linear. And if you have a sibling who doesn't help, try not to let it eat you up. You can't make them care. Just focus on the time you have. You won't regret being there.”
soft.pine · been through anticipatory grief