Clear Path Counselling, Port
We help people with loss of a brother or sister and miscarriage and pregnancy loss, in person in Port of Spain and online. Sessions are relaxed and you set the pace.
Tue to Sat, 10 to 6
For grieving someone who is still here. Talk with people in Trinidad & Tobago who know what it is like, find help near you, and join the worldwide circle too. Free, always.
Next gathering in the Trinidad & Tobago circle: Weekly check-in ยท
We help people with loss of a brother or sister and miscarriage and pregnancy loss, in person in Port of Spain and online. Sessions are relaxed and you set the pace.
Tue to Sat, 10 to 6
Free emotional support from trained listeners, online and anonymous, in many languages.
24/7
Grief recovery support groups meeting weekly.
โIf you're just starting this, I want to say it's a strange kind of loss. You're grieving someone who is still here. That's allowed. Some days you'll be fine and then a song or a smell will hit you and you'll be back in the car crying. It's not linear. And if you have a sibling who doesn't help, try not to let it eat you up. You can't make them care. Just focus on the time you have. You won't regret being there.โ
โWhen my dad went into palliative care, I thought I had to be strong. I didn't. The waiting is the worst part. You don't have to fill every silence. Just be there. If you need to cry, cry in the car. If you need to laugh at something stupid on TV, laugh. It's not betrayal. Your person is still here. That's what matters. Don't plan too far ahead. Just get through today, then tomorrow. That sounds like something off a fridge magnet but it's the only thing that works. And find someone to talk to, even if it's just online. You're not the only one going through this.โ
โA note for the next person. I was in the same place this time last year. Dad is in palliative care. That was every day. I'm volunteering here now. It comes back so slowly you don't notice until one day you do. One day at a time.โ
โIf you're just starting this, the one thing I'd say is: don't wait for the perfect moment to say what you need to say. My dad was still cracking jokes about the football two days before he went. I nearly didn't tell him I loved him because I thought there'd be another visit. There wasn't. And don't feel bad about planning the funeral early. It doesn't mean you've given up. It just means you're trying to make things easier for everyone later. Also, take the unpaid leave if you can. Work will still be there.โ