Autistic Self Advocacy Network
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Resources by and for autistic people.
โI'm not going to tell you it gets easier, because I don't know if it does. What I can say is that you learn to carry it better. The assessments, the meetings, the forms, they're exhausting, but you're the expert on your child. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Find one person who gets it, even if it's just someone online. And if you can, find two hours a week just for you. It's not selfish, it's survival.โ
โTo the parent just starting out: I know it feels like you are the only one. The supermarket stares, the meltdowns, the same five foods. It is hard. But you will find your people. I found a support group online and it helped just to know others get it. Fight for the assessments, keep notes, and do not be afraid to ask for help. And look after yourself too. You cannot pour from an empty cup.โ
โIf you've just found this place, I was where you are nearly four years ago. For me it was the same five foods. Last month I had people round for dinner.โ
โHey. If you're just starting out with this, I won't pretend I've got it all sorted. Some days I still hide in the bathroom for five minutes. But you learn. You learn that the meltdown isn't naughtiness, it's overload. You learn which clothes work and which ones cause a fight. You learn to ignore the looks in the shop. Find one or two people who get it, even if it's online. And cut yourself some slack. You're doing more than you think.โ