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โA note for the next person. I was where you are nearly four years ago. It was moving out of our flat and I couldn't see past it. This week I went back to my evening class. Things come back, slower than you'd like but they do. Hang on.โ
โIf you are at the start of this, one thing. You do not have to answer anyone today. Sit with the lamp off, put the phone face down, that is allowed. The first thing that came back for me was small, a cake for a neighbour, a walk to the corner, saying good morning to a guard. Not big. When someone calls and the phone feels like a brick, let it ring, then maybe message them one word. That word is enough for now. It gets less heavy. Not all at once, but it does.โ
โwhen it first happens you'll want to lie on the floor and stay there. that's okay. the dishes will pile up. you'll check if he's online. you'll replay every conversation. it's not pathetic. it's just how it goes. i'm two months in and i still do it. but i also went to the corner shop today and the uncle asked about him and i said we broke up and my voice only shook a little. so. that's something. take the small wins. and let your friends drag you into dumb games at night. it helps more than you'd thinkโ
โDear stranger, a year and a half ago I was exactly where you are. Five years together, every single day. I've started painting again. It comes back so slowly you don't notice until one day you do. One day at a time.โ