Soft Light Sleep Kits, Durban
Run by people who have been through divorce and separation and breakups and heartbreak themselves.
Tue to Sat, 10 to 6
For hearts that are mending. Talk with people in South Africa who know what it is like, find help near you, and join the worldwide circle too. Free, always.
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Run by people who have been through divorce and separation and breakups and heartbreak themselves.
Tue to Sat, 10 to 6
We help people with divorce and separation and infidelity and betrayal, in person in Mbombela and online. Sessions are relaxed and you set the pace.
Evenings and weekends
Free emotional support from trained listeners, online and anonymous, in many languages.
24/7
โA note for the next person. I was where you are nearly four years ago. It was moving out of our flat and I couldn't see past it. This week I went back to my evening class. Things come back, slower than you'd like but they do. Hang on.โ
โDear stranger, a year and a half ago I was exactly where you are. Five years together, every single day. I've started painting again. It comes back so slowly you don't notice until one day you do. One day at a time.โ
โwhen it first happens you'll want to lie on the floor and stay there. that's okay. the dishes will pile up. you'll check if he's online. you'll replay every conversation. it's not pathetic. it's just how it goes. i'm two months in and i still do it. but i also went to the corner shop today and the uncle asked about him and i said we broke up and my voice only shook a little. so. that's something. take the small wins. and let your friends drag you into dumb games at night. it helps more than you'd thinkโ
โIf you are at the start of this, one thing. You do not have to answer anyone today. Sit with the lamp off, put the phone face down, that is allowed. The first thing that came back for me was small, a cake for a neighbour, a walk to the corner, saying good morning to a guard. Not big. When someone calls and the phone feels like a brick, let it ring, then maybe message them one word. That word is enough for now. It gets less heavy. Not all at once, but it does.โ