Juha Counselling
Practical help for people dealing with infidelity and betrayal and divorce and separation, plus a weekly drop-in.
Evenings and weekends
For hearts that are mending. Talk with people in Sweden who know what it is like, find help near you, and join the worldwide circle too. Free, always.
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Practical help for people dealing with infidelity and betrayal and divorce and separation, plus a weekly drop-in.
Evenings and weekends
Free emotional support from trained listeners, online and anonymous, in many languages.
24/7
โwhen it first happens you'll want to lie on the floor and stay there. that's okay. the dishes will pile up. you'll check if he's online. you'll replay every conversation. it's not pathetic. it's just how it goes. i'm two months in and i still do it. but i also went to the corner shop today and the uncle asked about him and i said we broke up and my voice only shook a little. so. that's something. take the small wins. and let your friends drag you into dumb games at night. it helps more than you'd thinkโ
โIf you are at the start of this, one thing. You do not have to answer anyone today. Sit with the lamp off, put the phone face down, that is allowed. The first thing that came back for me was small, a cake for a neighbour, a walk to the corner, saying good morning to a guard. Not big. When someone calls and the phone feels like a brick, let it ring, then maybe message them one word. That word is enough for now. It gets less heavy. Not all at once, but it does.โ
โI was sure I'd never feel normal again. I was wrong. No contact was the only thing that workde for me. Keep going, even slowly.โ
โPlease be gentle with yourself, I wasn't, and it made everything harder. Routine saved me so same time up, same walk, same tea, and talk to someone, even if it's just in here.โ