Northside Debt Advice, Jurong
Run by people who have been through empty nest and parenting a child with a disability themselves.
Tue to Sat, 10 to 6
For anyone worn down by caring for someone else. Talk with people in Singapore who know what it is like, find help near you, and join the worldwide circle too. Free, always.
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Run by people who have been through empty nest and parenting a child with a disability themselves.
Tue to Sat, 10 to 6
Run by people who have been through a loved one's addiction and caring for an aging parent themselves.
Tue to Sat, 10 to 6
โSorry, this got long. I'm not going to tell you everything happens for a reason. It doesn't. But you can get through it. I did, and I'm not especially strong. Getting the school involved early made a big difference for us.โ
โto anyone starting with caregiver burnout: feeling this way does not mean you are weak. it means you have been carrying too much for too long. you will feel angry and guilty and loving all in the same hour. that is normal. get a sitter, even for two hours. go for a walk. cry in the bathroom if you need to. but do not turn on yourself for having feelings. this is hard what you are doing. and plenty of us are doing it too.โ
โYou will resent them. You will hate yourself for it. Both things can be true. I wish someone had told me that earlier. Get a sitter for two hours a week, even if they refuse. Even if it feels like a waste. She'll survive. You need those two hours more than you know. And the guilt doesn't go away, but it gets quieter.โ
โI know you are running on empty. The resentment, the guilt, the exhaustion, it is all real. You are not a bad person for feeling it. Start with one small thing that is just for you, even if it is ten minutes. I found a sitter for two hours a week, and it changed things. It is not a cure, but it is a start. You are doing more than you think.โ