Northside Debt Advice, Surabaya
Run by people who have been through caring for an aging parent and empty nest themselves.
Evenings and weekends
For the overwhelming, beautiful first years. Talk with people in Indonesia who know what it is like, find help near you, and join the worldwide circle too. Free, always.
Next gathering in the Indonesia circle: Weekly check-in ยท
Run by people who have been through caring for an aging parent and empty nest themselves.
Evenings and weekends
โI think If you're at the start of this, I won't pretend it's easy. The first few months were the worst of my life. But I'm writing this from the other side, and some days now I forget to be sad. I stopped trying to be the perfect parent. Good enough is enough. Go slowly.โ
โIf you are just starting out with a new baby and the colic, I want to tell you it does pass. The crying every evening feels like it will never end but it does. Ask for help even if you have no family close by. I found one neighbour who took the baby for an hour so I could sleep. That hour saved me. Other mums are out there going through the same thing even when it feels like nobody is.โ
โIf you've just found this place, I was in the same place nearly four years ago. For me it was my partner and I fighting over nothing. I've started painting again.โ
โI remember being right in the middle of it, thinking there was no end. The broken sleep, feeling like a stranger to yourself. I've been there. What helped me was tiny things: a short walk with the pram, a hot drink while the baby slept (even if I didn't). And I asked for help, which wasn't easy. You're not on your own with this. Things do improve, just slowly. Try to be kind to yourself.โ