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โfor anyone starting with the mirror stuff: it starts with one comment and then it lives in your head rent free, which is rude. what helped me was noticing how much time I gave to strangers on Instagram and how little to Clive or Kemar or my own lunch. I am not fixed, not even close. But I stopped weighing myself before work. small. do one small thing that is yours and not about how you look, even if it is just eating the chicken with the skin on.โ
โTo anyone starting out with body image and self-worth stuff: I know it feels impossible right now. I used to avoid mirrors and skip social events. What helped me was small things, like writing down one thing I liked about myself each day, and finding a therapist who got it. It's not linear progress. Some days I still feel like crap. But it does get easier. You don't have to believe it yet. Just keep going.โ
โIf you're at the start of this, I won't pretend it's easy. The first few months were the worst of my life. But I'm writing this from the other side, and some days now I forget to be sad. Lean on whoever offers, even if it's awkward. People want to help. Go slowly.โ
โFor a long time my body image and self-worth were a mess. I avoided mirrors, picked at my skin until it was raw, and was sure my colleagues could see right through me at work. The changes were tiny at first. I told one friend what was actually going on. I found a therapist who let me talk without making me feel small. Learning that good days and bad days can sit next to each other was a big part of it. You don't have to sort everything out today. Keep putting one foot in front of the other, and ask for help before you feel like you're drowning. Bad days don't mean you're failing.โ